All I can do is tell you what I've learned.

[ He folds his hands--seemingly delicate and small, just like the rest of him, a body not belied by the deep resonance of his voice--in his lap. He leans forward slightly, and that voice turns sharp, insistent. ]

For example: anger is not wrong. Anger is a weapon. The trouble is, it's double-bladed. You have to know how to use it, or you'll only end up cutting yourself.